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Stuck in Grief: When Everyone Else Has Moved On

Stuck in Grief: When Everyone Else Has Moved On

It's been fourteen months since your mom died. At work, someone says it's great to have you "back to normal," and you smile because there's no easy way to explain that you cried in the parking lot that morning. The group chat stopped asking how you're doing around month three. Sunday afternoons, when you used to call her, still feel like a hole in the week.

Being stuck in grief means the pain of a loss stays sharp and keeps getting in the way of your life long after the people around you expect it to ease. Part of what makes it so hard is the loneliness that comes with it, the sense that everyone else has picked their lives back up while you're still standing in the same spot. In this post, we'll cover what being stuck in grief looks like, how long grief can last, when it might be prolonged grief disorder, and what helps when you feel left behind.

False Memory OCD and the Fear You Did Something Terrible

False Memory OCD and the Fear You Did Something Terrible

You're brushing your teeth on Sunday morning when a picture flashes through your mind: last night's party, your hand on someone's shoulder, a laugh that might have been too loud. Did you say something cruel? Did you touch someone who didn't want to be touched? You don't remember doing either, and you can't prove you didn't, so by noon you've replayed the whole night more times than you can count.

False memory OCD is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) where you get stuck on the fear that you did something bad in the past, even though you have no clear memory of doing it. It's a known theme within OCD, and it's treatable. In this post, we'll cover what false memory OCD looks like, why OCD false memories feel so convincing, how it differs from real event OCD, and what helps you stop chasing an answer that never seems to settle.

“High Functioning Addict”: Spot The Signs And How To Get Help

“High Functioning Addict”: Spot The Signs And How To Get Help

You hit every deadline this week. You made it to Saturday’s soccer game, answered the late emails, and nobody at work would guess how many nights end with a bottle of wine you meant to stop halfway through. From the outside, life looks fine. So when the thought “Do I drink too much?” shows up, it’s easy to push it aside because you’re handling everything.

If you’ve typed “what is a high functioning alcoholic” into a search bar at 1 a.m., that question deserves a clear answer. A high functioning alcoholic is someone who meets the criteria for alcohol use disorder while still keeping up with work, family, and daily life. That’s why the drinking can stay hidden from the people around you, and often from yourself. Below, we’ll walk through the signs, why this pattern is so easy to miss, what tends to happen over time, and how therapy helps you or someone you love.

How to Deal With a Narcissistic Parent and Set Boundaries That Hold

How to Deal With a Narcissistic Parent and Set Boundaries That Hold

You told your mother last week that you can't take calls during work hours. It's 2:15 pm on a Tuesday, and your phone already shows four missed calls and a voicemail saying you've obviously stopped caring about her.

Setting boundaries with a narcissistic parent is deciding which behavior you'll accept and what you'll do when it shows up, whether or not your parent agrees. If you've been searching for how to deal with a narcissistic parent, boundaries are the place to start. This post explains how to set a boundary your parent can't argue away and why the pushback is so predictable. It also covers what to do when the boundary gets ignored.

Dysfunctional Family Roles and How They Develop in Childhood

Dysfunctional Family Roles and How They Develop in Childhood

You're 34, and you manage a team at a job where difficult conversations are an ordinary part of your week. Then you walk into your parents' house for a holiday, and within ten minutes you're standing between your mother and your brother, smoothing over an argument exactly the way you did when you were eleven.

Dysfunctional family roles are the fixed parts each family member plays to keep the household running when something inside it isn't working. If your family was under strain, it probably had several of them. This post explains how those roles develop during childhood and why you and your sibling ended up with different ones. It also covers what it takes to step out of yours now.

Postpartum Rage Signs, Causes, and How to Get Help

Postpartum Rage Signs, Causes, and How to Get Help

The baby finally falls asleep after an hour of rocking. Then a pan clatters in the sink, the baby startles awake, and something in you snaps. You yell louder than you've ever yelled at someone you love, and ten minutes later you're sitting on the bathroom floor wondering who that was.

Postpartum rage is intense, hard-to-control anger that shows up in the months after having a baby, often far bigger than whatever set it off. It's common, and it's treatable. Below, we'll walk through the signs and causes of postpartum rage, and when it's time to talk to someone.

Body Image Issues During Pregnancy and How to Cope

Body Image Issues During Pregnancy and How to Cope

You're standing in front of the closet in the morning, and nothing fits the way it did last month. The jeans won't button, and the one dress that still works is in the wash. A coworker told you yesterday that you've "popped," and you smiled, then thought about it for the rest of the day. You wanted this baby, and you still don't recognize the body in the mirror.

Body image during pregnancy is the way you think and feel about your body as it changes to carry a baby. If those thoughts have turned harsh, you're dealing with something common that rarely gets talked about. This post covers why body image issues during pregnancy show up and how to tell everyday discomfort from something bigger. You'll also find ways to cope that our therapists use with clients.

What Your Comfort Show Says About You, From Gilmore Girls to Schitt's Creek

What Your Comfort Show Says About You, From Gilmore Girls to Schitt's Creek

It's 9:40 on a Tuesday night. You've got a dozen new series sitting in your queue, and you scroll past every one of them to put on an episode you could recite from memory. You already know Luke will pour the coffee, Ross will yell "pivot," Jim will put Dwight's stapler in Jell-O, and Alexis will say "Ew, David." You press play anyway, and your shoulders drop about an inch.

A comfort show is a series you rewatch again and again because it feels familiar and safe. If you've ever wondered why you keep going back, or what your pick says about you, this post is for you. We'll cover why rewatching feels so good and what Gilmore Girls, Friends, The Office, and Schitt's Creek each tend to give you. We'll also look at how to tell when a rewatch has stopped helping.

What Causes Claustrophobia, and Does It Get Worse With Age?

What Causes Claustrophobia, and Does It Get Worse With Age?

Claustrophobia, the intense fear of confined or enclosed spaces, affects millions of people worldwide and can trigger panic attacks, anxiety, and even physical symptoms like sweating or rapid heartbeat. Check out our blog “3 Ways to Manage Your Physical Anxiety Symptoms.” But what actually causes this fear to take hold? While every individual’s experience is unique, experts believe claustrophobia often stems from a combination of genetic, psychological, and environmental factors. Some people may be more biologically prone to anxiety disorders, while others might develop the fear after a traumatic event, such as being trapped in a small space or experiencing a frightening situation in childhood.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, one in eight adults may have this phobia or roughly 12.5% of the adult population in the United States. In many cases, claustrophobia develops early in life and becomes more pronounced over time. The brain's fear response can become overly sensitive, reacting strongly even in mildly enclosed spaces like elevators or crowded rooms. Learned behavior may also play a role- if a person witnesses someone else showing fear in a confined space, they may internalize that response themselves. Ultimately, understanding the root causes of claustrophobia is the first step toward managing it, whether through working with a phobia counselor at Anchor Therapy, exposure techniques, or self-guided strategies to reduce anxiety.

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Often Carry These 10 Patterns

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents Often Carry These 10 Patterns

Maybe you spent your childhood reading a parent's mood before you walked in the door, adjusting your voice, your plans, even your personality to keep things calm. Maybe you're an adult now with your own apartment and your own job, and you still flinch a little every time your phone lights up with their name. Growing up with a narcissistic parent means being raised by someone whose need for admiration, control, or validation consistently came before your own emotional needs, and the effects of that don't stay in childhood.

This post walks through ten of the most common, well-documented ways growing up with a narcissistic parent can shape you as an adult, from how you talk to yourself to how you learn to trust the people you love. Some of these might sound exactly like you. Others might describe a sibling who had a noticeably different role in the family than you did. Either way, recognizing the pattern is usually the first real step toward changing it.

Are Empaths Real? What the Science Says

Are Empaths Real? What the Science Says

Have you ever walked into a room and felt the emotional temperature shift right away? Maybe you picked up on a friend's sadness before they said a single word. Or you left a party feeling drained by emotions that weren't yours. If that sounds familiar, you've probably wondered whether you're an empath, and whether empaths are real.

An empath is a person with an extraordinary sensitivity to the emotions and moods of the people around them, experiencing those feelings as if they were their own. You've seen the word all over social media, and the question of whether empaths are real deserves an honest answer. The science has something to say to both the skeptics and the true believers. In this blog, we'll look at what the research says and what being an empath means for your mental health and relationships.

No Contact With Parents and How to Know When It Helps

No Contact With Parents and How to Know When It Helps

Maybe it's the third holiday in a row you've spent bracing yourself before a phone call. Maybe you've rehearsed what you'll say to a parent who never actually lets you finish a sentence. If you've started quietly wondering whether the relationship is worth what it costs you, you're not the only one asking. No contact with parents means deliberately ending communication with a parent, usually after other ways of managing the relationship haven't worked, and even considering it can come with guilt before you've made any decision at all.

This post walks through what no contact actually means, why so many adult children are choosing it right now, and how to tell whether it might be the right move for you. We'll also get into what the research shows about how common this really is, what tends to happen to these relationships over time, and how to go about it if you decide that's where you're headed.

Is It Normal to Be Bored in a Relationship After a Toxic One?

Is It Normal to Be Bored in a Relationship After a Toxic One?

Your new partner texts back within the hour. They say what they mean and mean what they say, and there's no guessing where you stand or waiting to see what mood walks through the door. And somehow, instead of feeling relieved, you feel restless, maybe even a little bored. If you've caught yourself missing the highs of a relationship that was bad for you, you're not broken and you're not secretly attracted to chaos.

If you're wondering whether it's normal to be bored in a relationship that's finally healthy, you're far from the only one asking. Feeling bored in a healthy relationship after a toxic one is a common nervous system response, where steady, consistent affection registers as unfamiliar because your body spent so long adapting to unpredictability. That flatness has a cause, and it doesn't mean this new relationship is wrong for you. In this post, we'll get into why healthy relationships can feel boring after a toxic one, what's happening in your body when that happens, how to tell the difference between real incompatibility and a nervous system still catching up to safety, and what helps you build a tolerance for calm instead of quietly sabotaging the good thing in front of you.

The Psychology of Situationships: Are They Toxic?

The Psychology of Situationships: Are They Toxic?

If you have ever been with someone, but not really with someone, then you have likely been in a situationship. You are more than friends but you are not exactly in a relationship. You are making last-minute plans, talking inconsistently, and your romantic connection is not exactly defined. In modern culture, casual relationships are extremely common. What was first known as a “booty call” morphed into “friends with benefits” and it is now known as a “situationship.”

If it was a movie, you and your situationship would witness the blossoming of friendship into an official romantic relationship. You two would fall in love and live happily ever after. But, as you may have guessed, life is not a picture-perfect movie and things do not always work out as you wish they would. The real question is - are situationships unhealthy?

Emotional Support Animal Benefits: How Pets Help Your Mental Health

Emotional Support Animal Benefits: How Pets Help Your Mental Health

If your dog hears your keys in the door and is already waiting by the time you walk in, or your cat curls into your lap on the exact night you need it most, you already know your pet does something for you. You've probably wondered if that's just in your head, or if there's something real behind it. There is. Emotional support animal benefits are the measurable ways a pet you're bonded to calms your body and mind, and they're backed by research on stress hormones, your nervous system, and the way you experience anxiety and loneliness day to day.

You don't need an official Emotional Support Animal (ESA) letter for any of this to apply to you. This post walks through what's happening in your body when you're with your pet, why some pets seem to help more than others, and where a pet's support has real limits. By the end of this, you'll know what the research shows, what to look for in your own relationship with your pet, and when it's time to bring in more support than your pet alone can give you.

Narcissistic Traits vs NPD: How to Tell Where the Line Is

Narcissistic Traits vs NPD: How to Tell Where the Line Is

Someone in your life is difficult, self-centered, hard to reason with. You've called them a narcissist more than once, probably out loud, probably to a friend who nodded along immediately. But somewhere in the back of your mind, a real question is sitting there: is that actually true, or is it just the word everyone reaches for now.

Narcissistic tendencies are traits like self-focus, a need for admiration, or difficulty with empathy that show up occasionally or in certain situations, without meeting the bar for an actual diagnosis. Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or NPD, is a specific, diagnosable condition where those same traits are pervasive, rigid, and present across nearly every context and relationship. Almost everyone has narcissistic tendencies sometimes, and very few people actually have NPD. This post covers what separates the two, how to tell which one you might be dealing with, and why the distinction matters more than it might seem.

Sunday Scaries Meaning: What Your Dread Might Say About Your Job

Sunday Scaries Meaning: What Your Dread Might Say About Your Job

It's 4:00 pm on Sunday and something in your chest just dropped. Nothing happened, no email came in, no calendar reminder went off. You were just sitting there, and then suddenly you weren't relaxed anymore. If this happens to you almost every week, you've probably already looked up what it's called.

If you're wondering about the Sunday scaries meaning, here it is in plain terms: the Sunday scaries are the anticipatory dread and anxiety that show up on Sunday afternoon or evening as the work week gets closer. Most explanations stop there and treat it like a harmless quirk everyone gets, and sometimes that's exactly what it is. Other times, your Sunday scaries are pointing at something bigger, like real dissatisfaction with your job. This post covers what the Sunday scaries mean, how to tell which version you're dealing with, and what to do once you know.

Somatic OCD and the Exhausting Loop of Noticing Everything

Somatic OCD and the Exhausting Loop of Noticing Everything

You notice yourself blinking. Now you can't stop noticing yourself blinking. An hour later you're still aware of every single blink, every swallow, the way your tongue sits in your mouth. You're not sick, nothing is actually wrong with your body, but you can't get your attention to let go of it either.

Somatic OCD is a subtype of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) where you become fixated on a normal, automatic body process, like breathing, blinking, or swallowing, and can't stop monitoring it once it's caught your attention. The sensation itself isn't dangerous, what's distressing is the awareness, the sense that you're now trapped noticing something you used to do without thinking at all. If you've ever gotten stuck on your own breathing or heartbeat for hours and wondered if something was seriously wrong with you, you're not broken, and you're not alone. This post covers what somatic OCD actually is, how it's connected to sensorimotor and hyperawareness OCD, and what actually helps you stop feeding the loop.

Friendship Jealousy: Why a Close Friend Can't Just Be Happy for You

Friendship Jealousy: Why a Close Friend Can't Just Be Happy for You

You tell your friend about the promotion, and there's a half-second pause before "oh, that's great" comes out. Then somehow, within two minutes, she's telling you about the raise she's up for, the one that's actually a bigger deal than yours. You leave lunch feeling like you did something wrong by having good news in the first place, and you can't quite explain why the whole conversation felt off.

A competitive friend is someone who treats your life as something to measure against their own, so your wins land as a threat instead of something to celebrate with you. It's rarely loud or obvious, showing up instead as a pause before the congratulations, a story that tops yours, or a compliment with a small hook in it. If you've ever felt smaller after telling a friend something good, you're not imagining it, and you're not being dramatic about it. This post covers what a competitive friend actually looks like, why it stings more from someone close to you than a stranger, and what you can do about it.

Enmeshed Family: What It's Like to Date Someone Who Grew Up in One

Enmeshed Family: What It's Like to Date Someone Who Grew Up in One

Your partner's mom calls every single day, sometimes twice. Every plan you make together gets run past her first, even small ones, even ones that have nothing to do with her. You've started to notice you're not quite sure where your partner's opinion ends and their mother's begins. You love this person, but you also can't shake the feeling that you're dating two people instead of one.

An enmeshed family is one where the boundaries between family members are blurred or missing entirely, so individual identity, decisions, and emotions get absorbed into the family as a whole instead of staying separate. When you date someone from a family like this, you're not just dating them. You're dating a whole system that doesn't always leave room for you. This post covers what enmeshment actually is, how to spot it early, and what it takes to build a relationship that can hold both your partner and their family without losing you in the process.

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