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All About IMAGO Couples Counseling

All About IMAGO Couples Counseling

Relationships can be both beautiful and challenging, often reflecting our deepest needs, fears, and past experiences. IMAGO couples counseling offers a unique and powerful approach to understanding these dynamics by helping partners see conflict not as a threat, but as an opportunity for growth and deeper connection. Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, IMAGO therapy blends psychological insights with practical communication tools to transform the way couples relate to one another.

At its core, IMAGO focuses on healing childhood wounds that resurface in adult relationships, allowing partners to move from blame and frustration toward empathy and understanding. Through guided dialogue and intentional listening, couples learn to connect beyond surface-level disagreements and rediscover the emotional bond that brought them together. Whether you are seeking to repair a strained relationship or simply strengthen your connection, working with a couples counselor at Anchor Therapy offers a path forward.

Breaking Free from People Pleasing to Build Healthier Romantic Relationships

Breaking Free from People Pleasing to Build Healthier Romantic Relationships

People pleasing is a common behavior that many struggle with, often without fully understanding why they feel compelled to constantly seek approval and avoid conflict. Research shows that roughly 49-52% of people self-identify as people pleasers. At its core, people pleasing usually stems from deeper emotional needs; like the desire to be accepted, loved, or valued by others. For some, it begins early in life, shaped by family dynamics or experiences where their worth was tied to meeting others’ expectations. This pattern can become so ingrained that it feels automatic, even when it leads to personal stress or resentment.

Understanding the root cause of people pleasing is essential for breaking free from it. It often ties back to fears of rejection, abandonment, or not being “good enough” as you are. When these fears dominate, saying no or asserting your own needs can feel risky or even impossible. Exploring these underlying beliefs helps create space for healthier boundaries and self-acceptance, allowing you to build relationships based on genuine connection rather than constant approval-seeking.

What Are Signs of the Fawning Response?

What Are Signs of the Fawning Response?

When we talk about trauma responses, most people are familiar with fight, flight, or freeze. But there is another lesser-known reaction called fawning- a survival mechanism where a person seeks to appease others to avoid conflict, criticism, or harm. This often looks like people-pleasing, over-apologizing, or abandoning personal needs in order to maintain peace or feel safe. While it may appear as kindness or agreeableness on the surface, fawning can be a deep-rooted response to past emotional or relational trauma.

Recognizing the signs of a fawning response is essential for anyone working on setting healthier boundaries or healing from trauma. From difficulty saying “no” to constantly anticipating others’ needs, the behaviors linked to fawning often go unnoticed because they are socially rewarded. In this post, we will explore the key indicators of the fawning response, why it develops, and how awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your authentic self.