Codependency

What The Fawn Trauma Response Is and How to Heal

What The Fawn Trauma Response Is and How to Heal

Someone in the next room raises their voice, and before you have even registered what is happening, you are already softening yours. You apologize for something that was not your fault. You agree with an opinion you do not actually hold, and you feel a small wave of relief when the tension finally drops. If this feels familiar, you are not imagining it, and you are not weak.

What you may be experiencing is something therapists call the fawn trauma response. The fawn trauma response is a survival pattern where you automatically try to please, appease, or accommodate other people to feel safe, usually at the expense of your own needs and feelings. It often gets mistaken for being kind, easygoing, or "low maintenance" which is part of why it can go unnoticed for years. In this blog, you will learn what the fawn response is, where it comes from, how to spot it in your daily life, and how trauma therapy can help you find your way back to yourself.

What Are The Four Types of Codependency?

What Are The Four Types of Codependency?

Codependency is a behavioral and emotional condition where individuals prioritize others’ needs over their own, often leading to unhealthy relationships. Research shows that the four main types of codependency include the caretaker, enabler, controller, and adjuster. The caretaker constantly sacrifices their own well-being to care for others, often feeling needed as a way to gain self-worth. The enabler supports or covers for another person’s harmful behavior, such as substance abuse, to avoid conflict or guilt, indirectly allowing the destructive patterns to continue.

The controller type tries to manage or dictate the behaviors of others to maintain a sense of stability, often stemming from fear of chaos or loss. The adjuster, on the other hand, adapts their behavior to please others, suppressing their own emotions and desires to avoid rejection or disapproval. Recognizing these types is crucial for self-awareness and personal growth, as each can impact relationships differently and may require targeted strategies for healthier interactions and boundaries.