July 6, 2026

toxic relationships, Narcissistic Abuse, breakup therapy, Trust Issues, trauma counseling

Courtney Glashow

Love bombing can leave you doubting everything you felt. Here's how to recover from love bombing, why it hits so hard, and the steps that help you heal and trust yourself again.

June 18, 2026

family counseling, Childhood trauma, Narcissistic Abuse, intergenerational trauma, self-esteem

Courtney Glashow

What It Means to Be the Family Scapegoat and ...

Maybe you're the family member who always gets called difficult or dramatic, and things go wrong and somehow land on you. Your side of the story gets waved off, and every argument traces back to your name. If that feels familiar, there's a word for it. Scapegoating is when a family unfairly blames one person for problems they didn't cause. It often starts in childhood, long before you're old enough to question it, and over time it can shape how you see yourself.

May 6, 2026

Couples counseling, toxic relationships, Trust Issues, Hoboken NJ therapist, Narcissistic Abuse

Courtney Glashow

8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

You're walking on eggshells in your own home. Conversations that should be simple turn into something you have to brace yourself for, and the moment you push back on anything, the script flips and somehow you're the bad one. You've started Googling words like "narcissist" and "manipulation" at 11pm because you don't know what to call what's happening, but you know something is wrong. You searched for how to deal with a narcissist, and you landed here. This post walks through what actually counts as narcissistic behavior versus everyday self-centeredness, what to watch for in your own relationship, and 8 specific strategies our therapists at Anchor Therapy use with clients who can't, or aren't ready to, leave the relationship.

The first step to determine your dynamic with someone who you think is a narcissist is to know the difference between someone with narcissistic tendencies and someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

July 15, 2024

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Courtney Glashow

What To Do When Someone Is Using You As A ...

While everyone suffers and goes through uncomfortable situations from time-to-time, that does not mean that you should be left to suffer. In a scapegoating situation, you as the scapegoat are the one who assumes responsibility on behalf of someone else. This is not a voluntary position that you offer, instead it is pushed upon you.

Scapegoating can occur in many different environments. Most commonly, people discuss scapegoating dynamics within families. For more information, read our blog “Understanding the Psychology of Scapegoating in Families.” In families, a scapegoat can be unfairly blamed for conflicts within the family.

With that being said, scapegoating can occur in other relationships as well. At work, an employee or group of workers may be blamed for company-wide or organizational problems. At school, a student may be targeted for classroom concerns. Within communities, certain people may be blamed for widespread social problems. Regardless of the setting, the act of scapegoating is always used to intentionally shift blame and avoid addressing the reality of a situation and the actual issues at-hand.

What To Do When Someone Is Using You As A Scapegoat

December 14, 2022

relationship counseling, marriage counseling, nj therapist, nyc therapist, premarital counseling

Courtney Glashow

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

When you are in a healthy relationship, it naturally functions well. Of course, like any couple, you may have disagreements from time-to-time or there may be some hard times, but you band together no matter what. You are able to make major life decisions together, discuss problems once they occur, and genuinely enjoy spending time with one another.

On the other hand, you have toxic relationships. In a toxic relationship, the ‘norm’ is feeling drained and unhappy after spending time with your partner. This should be a major red flag that some things need to change.

You may still love your partner, but the relationship does not seem enjoyable. Maybe minor issues turn into full-blown arguments or you always seem to provoke one another. It may even get so severe that you dread spending time with your partner instead of getting excited to see them, like you were in the past.

Continue reading this blog to see if your relationship is toxic, and some guidance on how to navigate a toxic relationship.

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

Example of a trauma bond

Courtney Glashow

July 31, 2024

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What Is A Trauma Bond Relationship?

Courtney Glashow

July 31, 2024

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A trauma bond occurs between a person and someone who mistreats them. This relationship often involves a strong emotional connection. The person who is being hurt may feel confused or even scared of their abuser, but they may also be dependent on them which makes it hard to leave the relationship. This is a trauma-bonded relationship.

A trauma bond involves cycles of negative reinforcement coupled with occasional happenings of positive reinforcement. The bouts of positive reinforcement are what makes it so difficult for people to leave an abusive relationship.

Other people may use the term ‘trauma bonding’ to refer to a different idea- a bond they form with someone by revealing a personal trauma, such as a sexual assault. For the sake of this blog, we will primarily discuss trauma bonding in the context of an unhealthy or toxic relationship.