About Lauren Mandelbaum, lpc, ncc, ccmhc

Hoboken trauma couples counselor psychotherapist

Hi! My name is Lauren Mandelbaum and I’m a psychotherapist at group private practice Anchor Therapy located in downtown Hoboken, New Jersey. My style is warm, compassionate, collaborative, and non-judgmental.  I have extensive experience working with children, teens, young adults, and couples from various backgrounds.  My goal is to help each and every client work through whatever difficulties life has placed in their path. Through empathic understanding and genuine acceptance, I promise to help guide you to personal growth and self-fulfillment. 

 

I am skilled in working with Cognitive-Behavior Therapy (CBT), and utilize strength-focused and evidence-based techniques to allow each client to regain a sense of peace in their lives. Together we will develop goals focused on your individual needs to best work on any issues that come your way.  While I specialize in treating trauma, I have extensive experience working with children, teens, adults, and couples with issues such as: depression, anxiety, relationship issues, grief and loss, anger management, and work/school difficulties.

 

By exploring your behaviors, thoughts, relationships, and life stressors we will be able to develop a plan that will best suit your therapeutic needs.  As a therapist, I believe there is no obstacle too great to overcome if you find the strength in yourself to reach out for support.

 

I have worked for many years helping preteens, teens, and adults develop the skills needed to work through difficult times, and have a deep understanding for how overwhelming things can become when their emotions feel out of control.  I use humor and empathic understanding to build a strong relationship in order to help each client develop their strengths in a way that allows them to move through life with confidence and self-love. 


More about how I could help…

Trauma counseling:

  • I have extensive experience working with people who have suffered from various forms of trauma. Trauma can leave you feeling lost and confused because it effects the body and mind in different ways. You may have difficulty sleeping at night or feel like your thoughts and emotions are out of your control. Whether it occurred last week or years prior, trauma symptoms can be triggered at any time.

  • High rates of depression and anxiety are also common, which sometimes makes it difficult to distinguish from other mental health issues. I use trauma-informed care to help my clients identify and understand the situations in their lives that damaged their sense of safety and wellbeing. I utilize mindfulness, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Narrative therapy tools to help work through the trauma and regain a sense of control. A wide range of life events can cause trauma, and some are easier to recognize than others.

  • Trauma-informed therapy is not just for people with an obvious source such as violence and abuse, but also applies to those with a history of loss or difficulties that have impacted the way you experience the world. Once you are able to learn healthy coping skills, you will be able to see the future with a new outlook.

Couples counseling:

  • Couples counseling can be beneficial at any stage of the relationship. Relationships take a lot of work and understanding to deal with the stressful life situations. Whether you are struggling with communication, infidelity, loss of intimacy, or just feeling plain stuck, couples therapy can be a great tool to help you move forward. You and your partner will be able to better understand the problem, learn how to improve communication, and change problem behaviors in a healthy way. No matter the current situation, counseling can help a couple better understand each other’s needs and learn how to maintain a life of satisfaction and teamwork.

  • A recently engaged couple might find it a great opportunity to openly discuss future goals, hopes, and fears for the future, while a couple of many years can use therapy to find ways to help their relationship maintain its excitement and romance. I have worked with couples from all backgrounds including the LGBTQ+ and polyamorous communities, and work to develop a strategy that best fits the needs of each couple. Couples counseling is a great way to strengthen your relationship so you can come together during times of major life change and transition.

  • Common areas of concern addressed in couples counseling include issues with:

    • Money

    • Parenting

    • Sex

    • Infidelity

    • In-laws

    • Chronic health issues

    • Infertility

    • Gambling

    • Substance use

    • Emotional distance

    • Frequent conflict

Teens:

  • Being a teen can be extremely stressful as you have a lot to worry about. Teens are experiencing an increase in anxiety and depression symptoms which parents have to look out for. It’s common for teens to feel a low self-esteem due to what others say on Instagram, Snapchat, anonymous app’s, etc. There may be changes in friendships and relationships which cause stress, anxiety, and sadness. The application process to get into high school in Hudson County can be as stressful as applying to colleges. I personally think every teen could use therapy as it’s such a stressful time in anyone’s life. It is a time they’re trying to figure out their identity, which is stressful enough. I have a great bond with all of the teen clients I see and really enjoy my work with them. I keep up-to-date with social media, pop culture, TV shows, and movies they’re watching so that we can speak the same language. I genuinely enjoy seeing the progress a teen client can make in therapy and find it so rewarding once they “graduate” from therapy with more confidence.

Young Professionals:

  • Young adults (20’s and 30’s year olds) have a hard time adulting as their life transitions. Either you’re in college and having a hard time balancing school and relationships or you are transitioning into the working world and finding that it is not everything you’d hope it’d be. You may find that you’ve found success in your career, but continue to experience relationship issues, anxiety, or depression. Whenever there’s a life event, such as graduating from college, getting married, having a baby, a breakup, a career change, etc.) you will feel some form of stress. I help my clients by coming up with ways they can cope with this stress in a healthy way. This is a time in your life where there are constant decisions that need to be made. You may fear that you’re making the wrong decisions and don’t know what your future holds. That’s a common fear for young adults, or young professionals, to experience.

LGBTQ+ Population:

  • I see many LGBTQ+ clients in my practice who are in need of support with multiple stressors. I not only treat individuals, but also couples within the LGBTQ+ community as well. I also have extensive experience in helping polyamorous couples. Some issues I help with includes helping clients with their coming out process, parenting a child who came out, gender or sexual identity questioning, experiencing discrimination/bullying, relationship issues, and any other stressors that may arise. While your identity may not even be a stressor, some people are looking for a therapist who they can feel comfortable seeing which is why I think it’s important to express my comfort and knowledge in working with this population. I am an ally, prefer She/Her pronouns, and prefer to be called Lauren.

Children:

  • I have extensive training in play therapy and have helped many children and their families with behavioral issues such as anxiety, agitation, low self-esteem, school issues, relationship issues, test taking anxiety, social anxiety, sadness, and divorce. I am able to build a strong bond with children so that they feel comfortable in a safe (and fun!) space to express themselves.

  • What is play therapy? Its truly the only way children can communicate and express themselves. Play is the language that children speak. Most kids’ brains are not developed enough to verbalize exactly what they’re thinking or feeling. The goal of play therapy is to communicate with children on their level. In turn, play therapy should lead you child to be able to express themselves better. All of the children I see look forward to coming to therapy since we have fun together. It is a special time for a child to get an adult’s full attention and express whatever they want in sessions in a safe environment. I teach children coping skills they can use outside of sessions when interacting with peers, family members, or anyone they may interact with.

Parents:

  • Additionally to seeing your child for therapy, I also have parenting sessions as needed throughout your child’s treatment. Parenting sessions can be check-in’s on the phone between the child’s session or it could be a full session with parent(s) in-person, on phone, or video. During these parenting sessions, we would create a plan on how you can help your children at home to continue the treatment we are doing in play therapy sessions. If your child is very young, then I have found it helpful to have more parenting sessions than play therapy sessions to help you, the parents, assist in the behavior changes at home with your child. Parenting sessions are also a nice break you get from being with your child so that you can refocus on coping with your own stressors that come along with parenting.

  • Since I am specialized in couples counseling, I can also assist with co-parenting issues that may come up. It is important that as parents you are on the same page with parenting. If you decide to reward your child in a specific way then it is important that both parents are aware of the goal set for the child. If the child does not achieve their set goal, then both parents have to communicate and agree that the reward was not earned at that time. If you are trying to co-parent while separated or divorced it can be difficult. These parenting sessions can assist you in having a safe space to communicate with one another and get on the same page.


More about telehealth sessions:

Are you looking for the option of virtual therapy? I am one of few therapists in the Hudson County area who offers the option of telehealth sessions (video and phone counseling). If you are residing in New Jersey, you are elligible for telehealth services with me.  I stay up to date with the latest technology; I’m frequently available, and easy to reach. The best way to reach me is by email or text as I will be able to respond quicker than playing phone tag in between sessions. Telehealth sessions are great if you have a sick child at home, you’re sick yourself, there’s a snow storm, you’re stuck at work, you’re traveling, or you just prefer to do a session while in your pajamas at home. I treat telehealth sessions as the same as in-person and find them just as beneficial in our work together. The ability to do telehealth sessions also comes with flexibility in scheduling.

What the next steps would look like…

The next step, if you feel I could be a good fit to help you or your loved one, would be to reach out to our intake coordinator Courtney by email (cglashow@anchortherapy.org) or fill out the form at the bottom of this page. Courtney will give you all the information you need to know when setting up an appointment and to make sure you’re a good fit with the therapist you’re requesting. If you feel comfortable, please explain a little bit about yourself (or who you want to bring in for therapy) and what you’re looking for help with. If you’re not comfortable discussing this over email, that’s not a problem at all. You can email Courtney to set up a phone call to discuss things further. At Anchor Therapy, we offer a free 15-minute consultation call. So whether you discuss how we could help you through email or by phone, we would then discuss your availability to find a time to schedule your intake session.

The first intake session would ideally would be in person. I have availability on Monday afternoon and evenings, Friday afternoon and evenings, and Saturday morning and early afternoons. I am also flexible to do phone or video sessions during other times of the week, including evenings. While every person and family are different, I conduct an intake assessment in which we will discuss your struggles, your goals for therapy, and your history. If you are bringing in a child or teen who is under 18 years old then I will need a parent of guardian present and get some background information from you as well. This helps me get a full picture of who you are and how I can best help you or your child.

Honestly the hardest part of starting therapy is finding a therapist who’s available and a good fit. That’s why I try to explain here a little bit of how I work with my clients. If this seems like a possible good fit then feel free to reach out. Our intake coordinator, Courtney, will get back to every client who reaches out within 24 hours. If Courtney finds that we are not a good fit for whatever reason, then she will see if there’s another therapist at Anchor Therapy who can help you or we also know many therapists in the area who we could direct you to.

Please feel free to contact our intake coordinator Courtney for a free consultation today and we can start the process of helping you or your loved one feel better soon.

BACKGROUND

  • Bachelor of Arts degree majoring in Psychology and minoring in Sociology at Rutgers University
  • Masters in Mental Health Counseling degree from New York University (NYU)
  • New Jersey Licensed Professional Counselor, License #37PC00667600
  • Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor
  • National Certified Counselor
  • Member of American Mental Health Counselors Association
  • Member of Psi Chi, The National Honor Society of Psychology

Lauren has experience working with the following:

  • Children
  • Teens
  • Young Adults (20s and 30s)
  • Couples
  • LGBTQ

Lauren’s areas of specialization include:

  • Trauma
  • Anxiety
  • Social Anxiety
  • Panic Attacks
  • Relationship problems
  • Sex issues
  • Infidelity
  • Polyamorous relationships
  • Depression
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Grief
  • School difficulties
  • Work problems
  • Family issues

As your therapist, Lauren finds it important to adapt and individualize each client’s plan of care to better fit your needs. Lauren has training in and incorporates the following evidenced-based practice methods:


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